#for better or worse I am not dead

[regular-gnome]

4. I can't belive you lost him

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[teaboot]

Sometimes at work it's not my place to tell people the things I want to say, and I find I often go home at the end of the rougher days to stand blankly in my shower and tell myself over and over what I wish I could pass on.

This accomplishes very little, and mostly just gives me a tension headache, but through it all I think I've narrowed myself down to a few solid things I'd like to tell people the most.

You can't change people. Not permanently, not for anythig. You can support them, encourage them, love them, give them tools and opportunities and resources, but you can't make them change. They can change themselves if they want to, but they have to want to, and they have to want it for themselves, because they're the only one that's certain to be with them forever.

For better or worse, you make your own choices, and blaming bad choices on others doesn't only work to absolve you of responsibility- it also robs you of control. Because if you say you only did something because I did something, then you arent only shifting blame- you're admitting that you cannot control yourself, that you cannot truly make choices for yourself, that other people can control you- and as long as you truly beleive that, you'll keep facing the same problems over and over. You'll keep letting others dictate your choices, because you'll beleive that they can, and you'll never be free.

White knights on horseback are from fairytales. Nobody can help you if ou're not willing to help yourself. To try, to put the dirty work in, to belive you're worth that effort- Act as though nobody is coming to save you. From a struggle, from pain, from bad relationships, from yourself. And when you do save yourself, because you will, because failure here isn't an option if you want to survive, you'll never find another dragon that can keep you prisoner.

Don't say anything to anyone that you wouldn't want them remembering forever.

Doing the right thing in bad circumstances is hard. It's the hardest thing. But if you make the choice to do that hard thing anyways, despite your fear, you'll go on the rest of your like knowing that you're the sort of person who did something.

The present only seems the hardest because the past I over and the future hasn't happened.

There's so much joy ahead of you, the kind you can't possibly understand until you see it yourself.

The responsibility of consequences is often disguised as the power of permission. "I won't do this if you help me", "I'll work on my anger if you do this for me", "I promised you I'd quit, but can I have just one?". The unspoken question is, "Can it be your fault if this goes badly?"

You cant make someone love you the way you need to be loved. Someone can love you very much and still be bad for you, even if you love them very much in return. Two people can love each other very, very much, and try their very best, and still be wrong for each other.

Sometimes being near to someone changes you, even in good ways, and the people you become don't fit together as well as the people you were.

Caring takes work. Even if it's real. Especially if it's real. And the most important gestures aren't the grand, poetic, songs-and-flowers-and-tears moments; they're getting out of bed even though you don't want to. Paying attention to things you don't enjoy. Scrubbing pans, or opening a window, saying "thank-you", or helping carry groceries into the house. The small things fill the big things- without the small, boring, mediocre things, big things feel hollow.

Thrre is honour and dignity in humble work.

If you are a cruel and spiteful person, then you will find every place you visit to be full of the same cruel, spiteful people. This is not because the world is as cruel as you, but because everywhere you are, you will be disliked. This is the curse that comes with being persistently cruel and spiteful.

If you are a kind and ppsitive person, you will repeatedly encounter kind and positive people, because as they grow familiar with you, they will be happier to have you near. This is the reward of being a kind and positive person.

When splitting paths with loved ones, briefly or forever, aim for your last words to always be "I love you".

[sexygayvampire]

hey does anyone else ever think about archon!dorian and lose their minds

[brionysea]

tagged by @zannolin in a get to know me game!

last song: eat your young by hozier

favourite colour: rainbows (this means nothing) (<- lying)

last book: technically I'm reading 3 different books at all times but percy jackson & the sea of monsters is the most recent

last movie: elf

last show: arcane s1 as well

sweet/spicy/savoury: sweet? my first thought was tangy like sour sweets (candy, for the confused americans) (sour patch kids to be precise) for some reason

relationship status: no thank you :)

last thing i googled: an up and coming video game studio's website called republicgames. it's founded by the co-writer on detroit: become human who WASN'T david cage and all the people who actually made that game good are jumping ship which is very funny to me

current obsession: the small arcane s2 fix-it fic I'm writing where jinx actually acts jinxy. I love her so much she's like 'wow sevika this whole revolution thing of yours is so lame they never do anything. I was doing more when I was seven. believe in yourself losers <3' and everyone's like 'wow... the scary girl says to believe in ourselves... we should set something on fire' her power is unmatched. on second thought my answer might just be 'jinx' but this is more fun

looking forward to: ummmmm ? ???? ?? continuing my arcane s1 rewatch I guess? OH and finishing my s1 jinx photoset, it's like 99% done and I'm just messing around with the text positioning at this point but ugh it's so good. I love it. I love jinx and being creative about jinx it's what she deserves

tagging: @evergreen-lyricist @blueskiesandstarrynights @crashed-wing @agrebel18

[theneighborhoodwatch]

how do you feel about people saying that the welcome home fandom is dead now that there are leas people posting about it?

my thoughts on this are actually very simple: as long as i am alive, there will be a fanbase for welcome home. therefore, these people are wrong.

[finchmarie]

I’m spending today on my couch catching up on art and feeling insanely grateful 💖 I didn’t know if anyone would want to commission me when I opened comms in October. But to have a steady stream of work and even returning clients has made me about burst with gratitude!

A huge eternal thank you to the lovely folks who trust me to paint your beloved OCs 💖 I should have a lot of work to share here soon!

I feel like I’m starting the year slow with sharing but it’s only cause I have so much cooking at once which isn’t a place I’ve been in a long time. Between memes, personal art, client work and exchanges I’m hoping this year is really a big step in continuing to make art that I really love and I’m proud of 💖

[cluescorner]

They fucking did it again those bastards. Jason Todd fucking dies 2: Electric Boogaloo. Fuck it, let's go for a threepeat at this point. It'll be funny as hell.

[wxvzkk]

it feels so lonely to just sit around and have nothing. no messages, no notifications, no people around me, no noise, like the lack of these things show how sad and it lowk has me wishing i had someone, not like a romantic way, but like, someone who is there yk? thats texts me and we call and play roblox or just talk, i just wish i wasnt how i am, cause ultimately i am the problem, no one else. i'm the one who takes hours to respond, im the one who doesnt know how to continue a conversation and i'm the one who doesn't know how to interact with people i care about and i'm the one who can barely make eye contact or even communicate with people. why am i lowkey tweaking rn. i wish i felt loved, by like literally anyone actually?? idk maybe cause its christmas so im tweaking. i say i dont celebrate christmas and my birthday but its just because they bring a dreaded feeling and i've never REALLY had presents (unless the occasional socks and hygiene products count) and it crashes with my religion, but it still hurts to see people opening theirs? idk like im literally the one who tells everyone not to get me anything but i get a little sad when i dont get anything and i see everyone else with these extravagant gifts but i think i'd kms if i got something that was more expensive than $15. oh my god i hate when people spend money on me because i feel like im wasting it and like they have so many better uses for it but i appreciate it so much i just dont know how anyone could find me worthy of a gift? idk wait chat this is so weird im just yappint about all my problems #yikes!! i dont care that much tho, anyone irl who sees this wont say anything or even acknowledge it? idk no one ever does so im not scared of the fact people will see this but actually processing my emotions rn is a little weird anyways!! merry christmas!! cant wait until new year, final days are 01/25/25!! see you then

[kerosene-saint]

I have a feeling my mom is slowly falling down an alt right/radfem pipeline on tik tok and it's scaring me

[disfrutalaisla]

I hope qCellbit wakes up covered in blood next to a dead body tbh

[virginstoner666]

you can never have too many dainty cross necklaces.

i will die on this hill, no matter what my bank account may have to say on the matter.

[pinacoladamatata]

something something down by the river

yeah i could draw something other than two characters gazing at each other with utter heartsick longing but I know what i'm about son

[brittlebutch]

kind of astounding how innocuous conversations with my younger siblings can make me feel like dogshit... what are the good things about being the oldest kid supposed to be again??

[vergilmayhoard]

sometimes i hate everyone and my life and sometimes i think it would be better if i just died at this point

[widevibratobitch]

anyway. it okay. im giving myself time to just be chill. im gonna start panicking when i get there. i still have 5 hours till then and rn im more preoccupied with the fact that i feel like i might be getting my period today and it better not happen on the train or ill kms and everyone on it

[orcelito]

Despite all odds, I have arrived home safely👍

Turns out that the earlier goop was the better goop. The adderall goop. The adderall has worn off now though. So I am. Very incredibly out of it.

But I am home. And I will take my quick shower. And then I will climb into bed.

I do need to eat. But... later...